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Your guide to sex & more! Get to grips with everything from pleasure to mental health. #whyifumble #sexeducation #relationships #mentalhealth #lgbt
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image: @eleonoraarosio. Our friends are not only one of the main influencers in our life, but we also rely on them for advice and emotional support. If your friend is constantly putting you down, making fun of you, not respecting your boundaries and betraying your trust then maybe you should reevaluate whether you want them around! Talk to your ‘friends’ about their behaviour and if need be- leave them behind, you will meet so many more lovely people who will return your love and effort 💛 #whyifumble #friendshipgoals #friendship #relationship #respect
The vagina only refers to one specific part of your anatomy- there is a lot more to genitalia than just the vagina! A persons vulva consists of the urethra (where you pee from), clitoris (pleasure central), labia minora/labia majora (folds of skin which protect everything) and the vagina opening. Contrary to what is commonly seen in pornography: labia are often protruding and are rarely symmetrical! For more vulva 101 see the article by Sophie in the link #whyifumble #vagina #vulva #bodypositivity
image: @frizzkidart. Everyone can play a role in dismantling misogyny. If your friends are spouting misogyny then it is your responsibility to talk to them and hold them accountable! It can be hard to confront your friends/family about their behaviour but it is important to explain why it is not okay! #whyifumble #misogyny #sexism #feminism #patriarchy
image: @myfreda and @projectconsent. (TW: sexual assault) The coverage of the Ulster rape trial, which saw rugby players Paddy Jackson and Stuart Olding cleared of raping a 19-year-old girl, highlighted the horrific interrogation that rape victims can face when they take their rapists to court. A Fumble contributor has anonymously shared a highly personal story of dealing with rape and the justice system (link in bio). Victim blaming is inexcusable and a victim's clothing should not be relevant. #whyifumble #saam #sexualassault #metoo #breakthesilence
image: @little_altars. A less well known safe sex option are Dental dams! They are sheets that act like a barrier between a person’s mouth and another person’s vagina/anus during oral sex. Just like condoms, they protect against contracting STDs. You can order them easily online! Always make sure you are practicing safe sex 👄 For more dos and don’ts on dental dams see the article in our bio. #whyifumble #safesex #safesexisgreatsex #dentaldam #contraception
image @florencegiven. Amazing and important message! No one should be judged for how many (or few) people they have had sex with. The double standards of women being negatively called ‘sluts’ while men are positively called ‘lads’ for their sexual history needs to be broken down 💪🏻 Respect people’s bodily autonomy! #whyifumble #respect #equality #feminism #genderequality
image: @lgbt.rainbow.world. 1969 became a turning point in LGBT history- originating from a mafia owned gay bar! A police raid on the Stonewall Inn led to riots from the LGBT community and in 1970 the first pride march took place! It is still considered to be one of the most important events in the struggle for LGBT rights. Everyone should have the freedom to be open about their sexuality without fear of persecution! 🌈 For more history about pride, visit the article in our bio! #whyifumble #lgbt #pride #equality #stonewall
image: @youre.worth.it.all Sometimes even the smallest things are big achievements! If you are having a bad mental health day then even simple daily routines can be hard- small steps are worthy of praise 🌟 #whyifumble #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealth #depression #selfcare
image @reesabobeesa. What does it mean to be non-binary? Being non-binary means that your gender identity doesn’t fit into the two restricted boxes of ‘man’ or ‘woman’. Non-binary can also be an umbrella term for identities which fall outside these boxes! If you are ever unsure of someone’s pronouns it is always better to ask 🗣 For more info check the article in our bio #whyifumble #lgbtq #gender #sexuality #body
Today is Equal Pay Day and we still have a long way to go before ALL women; women of colour included are paid the same #whyifumble #equalpayday #femimism #equality
Repost: @interact_teen. Always believe and support sexual assault survivors 💪🏻 Let’s help break the silence around sexual assault #whyifumble #saam #sexualassault #metoo #breakthesilence
image: @agathesorlet. From ghosting to sexting- how has social media impacted our relationships and how we date? In a study conducted by Pew Research Center, 45% of internet users aged 18-29 in serious relationships admitted to the internet having an impact on in their relationships. For more details read the article in our bio #whyifumble #relationships #socialmedia #digital #love
image: @nataliebyrne. Feminism: the advocacy of women’s rights! Feminist movements share the common goal to achieve political, economic and social equality for women. There are a lot of different branches of feminism (we will cover some in this weeks insta posts!) but most importantly your feminism should be trans-inclusive and recognise that race, sexuality and class etc all interact with gender! #whyifumble #feminism #feminist #intersectionalfeminism #equality
image: @kelseyandkelsey. Access to birth control is a fundamental right- contraception gives you the freedom not only to engage in sexual activity but to do it safely! For women there are so many different contraception methods to try that it can sometimes be overwhelming but at least you have a high chance of finding one that works for you. If you are stuck check out our article in the bio 👍🏻 #whyifumble #contraception #safesex #relationships #sex
April is #testicularcancerawareness month! Ages between 25 and 39 are most at risk so make sure you know how to check- simply follow the handy guide above! If something doesn’t feel right always go to your GP. #whyifumble #testicularcancer #health
image: @rubyst. Weekday essentials: phone, notepad, pens, coffee and...a mental health break? At this time of year where there are so many deadlines and exams coming up, it’s important not to neglect your health! Try to work some YOU time into your busy week, even if that’s just taking a long bath or doing half an hour of yoga/meditation. Don’t let life get in the way of your health 🌿💪🏻 #whyifumble #mentalhealth #positivevibes #healthylifestyle #modernlife
image: @tenderuk. Tender is an organisation which aims to educate young people about abuse in relationships. They try to give young people the knowledge they need to combat attitudes that endorse abusive behaviour and make sure they know where to get support. 24 hr domestic violence helpline: 08082000247. Everyone can do something to raise awareness about harassment and abuse in relationships. Check out our latest article in the bio for more details (Trigger Warning). #whyifumble #shouldertoshoulder #healthyrelationships #abusiverelationship
image: @britandco. Girls support girls! Teenage girls are often stereotyped as superficial, vain and over dramatic but this is just not true- teenage girls deserve better representation and deserve to have their mental health/sexuality taken seriously instead of it being dismissed as a ‘phase’. #whyifumble #feminism #girlpower #feminist #relationships #teenagegirls #everydayfeminism
The unrealistic pursuit of the ‘perfect body’ is an epidemic among men, not just women! While society is sometimes more aware of the pressures it puts on women to meet a certain standard- it continues to ignore the same pressure men are under. Embrace your imperfections 🌟 #whyifumble #malepositivity #bodyimage #healthylifestyle #mentalhealth
On #internationaltransgenderdayofvisibility Fumble are talking about the importance of intersectionality in the LGBTQ community and beyond. Intersectionality is used to show how different aspects of people’s identities e.g. race, gender, sexuality, age interact and cannot exist separately. For more info check the article in the link! #whyifumble #intersectionalfeminism #lgbt #transgender #feminism #identity
Image: @littlethunder. Beautiful illustration and so relatable! Maybe its time to start reading instead of staying on our phones late at night? Research shows that using screens at night can prevent a restful sleep! Try a book instead 📖 #whyifumble #health #restfulsleep
Image: @cecile.dormeau. Annoyed by acne? See the article in our bio for some helpful tips on how to embrace your skin! Don’t let acne control your life and don’t let society’s ridiculous beauty standards bring you down 💪🏻 #whyifumble #acne #spottyandcute #bodypositivity #rebelagainstbeautystandards
image: @takebackthehalls. Controlling behaviour such as criticising what you wear, who you hang out with may seem like caring but in reality these behaviours are harmful! Your partner should not dictate your life and a healthy relationship should thrive on personal autonomy. #whyifumble #unhealthyrelationships #controllingrelationship #abuse
image: @ppnycaction. Transgender people deserve the same rights as everyone else! It’s time the media started giving them representation not abuse and it’s time that public policy gave them the safety and equality they deserve 🌈✊🏻 #whyifumble #transgender #equality #lgbt #respect
When can you say no to sex? At any point!! Before the bedroom, during foreplay, even during sex! Your body belongs to you and if you change your mind, your partner should respect that. It doesn’t matter who your partner is: if it’s your friend, your other half or even a fling you have the right to say no. No means no. #whyifumble #metoo #nomeansno #communication #consent #relationships
image: @agathesorlet. Hung up on an old ex? Good news: It’s pretty normal. The brain develops patterns on learned behaviours, so when there is a pattern laid down with a person who was your partner, your brain finds it hard to shift from it! For more info on why finding it hard to forget your ex is normal go to the link in the bio! #whyifumble #relationships #bodyfacts #breakup #expartner #heartbreak
(image: @recipesforselflove) Its always so important to practice safe sex, but sometimes you discover you have contracted an STI. Discovering you have a sexually transmitted infection can be lonely and embarrassing. However, it is more common than you think- one in six people between 14-49 have herpes (Centre for Disease control and prevention). People can live with STI’s and it doesn’t make them less deserving of love! #whyifumble #breakthestigma #sti #bodypositive #safesex
It’s normal to worry that your penis is too small/big/hairy! The majority of people only see other penises in porn (where they are not going to be representative). For more advice on how to get over your penis worry- head to the article in our bio! #whyifumble #penis #positivebodyimage #bodypositive
Puberty sucks 👎🏻 but the cartoon Big Mouth on Netflix is a refreshing take on the awkward teenage years. There’s an entire episode dedicated to female pleasure and some of the shows best actors are LGBT+ 🎉 #whyifumble #puberty #relationships #teenagers #tv
(image: @the_young_feministt) Let’s show our friends some love! To the people who support us, boost our confidence, keep our secrets and always have our back 🤝 Tag a friend who you love! #whyifumble #positivevibes #relationships #friendships #friendlove
image: @slingaillustration. Gay rights are human rights! LGBT people are...big surprise! Just normal people who desire and deserve the same rights and freedoms that everyone should ✊🏻 🌈#whyifumble #gayrights #equality #lgbt #humanrights #sexuality
Today is National Child Sexual Exploitation Awareness Day. Fumble is standing united against CSE and so should you. Look out for signs such as: missing school, staying out late, being secretive and a lack of interest in hobbies. For more information visit the Barnardo’s website and if you think a child is in immediate danger then contact the police. #whyifumble #stopcse #stopchildsexualabuse #breakthesilence
image: @maiaboakye. When you haven’t had your first kiss yet, the prospect can be overwhelming! First kisses can be as romantic as films portray them or they can just be an awkward snog! But don’t let your peers make you feel weird for not kissing anyone and never let anyone make you kiss someone you don’t want to 👄 Consent is still required even for a kiss! #whyifumble #consent #firstkiss #youngteens #relationships
Repost: @sxwise / Image: @yoni.care There is such an array of lubes which can help increase pleasure/prevent abrasions and unnecessary friction! Always remember that someone with a vagina can be super aroused but not super wet and that’s when lube can come in handy 👍🏻You can use it with a partner or even by yourself with sex toys. Just always make sure you are using safe ones (not vaseline, babyoil and do not use spit!). For more advice head to our website for Lube 101 #whyifumble #lube #safesex #relationships #positivesex #health #body
It is so important that sex education is diverse and discusses consent, lgbt+ relationships, STIs and makes sure that sex is framed in a positive way to discourage slut shaming! Educating young people about sex can be hard- but it’s vital that they are given the skills and attitudes to approach sex in a respectful and safe way 🍆 #whyifumble #sexpositive #sexeducation #feminism
(image credit: @marieboiseau) Humans are naturally hairy! If you are struggling to embrace your body hair, here are some tips: 1. Remember that everyone has hair 2. Surround yourself with positive people 3. Follow body positive accounts on insta! For more tips on how to embrace your body hair read Katie Gaster’s article http://www.fumblemag.com/i-learned-to-love-my-body-hair/ #whyifumble #bodyhairdontcare #bodypositive #feminism
Bisexual erasure: when people question your sexuality and argue that you must be ‘confused’ or ‘it’s only a phase’. Bisexual women are seen as overly promiscuous while Bisexual men ‘haven’t realised they’re gay yet’. Sexuality is a spectrum and all sexualities are valid and should be respected ✊🏻 #whyifumble #bisexuality #bisexualerasure #lgbt #sexuality #pride #equality
(image: @abbey_lossing) Force yourself to take a self care day, even when you are super stressed and have work piling up around you- take a break and do something you enjoy 💛 Your mental health should come before work #whyifumble #selfcare #positivevibes #mondayblues #mentalhealthawareness
(image: @bymariandrew) Mothers' Day can be an emotional time but here's to the wonderful women who have cared for us, nurtured us and helped us grow 🌱 #whyifumble #MothersDay #family #relationships
Following on from our last post- Zipet is a free app from @childline_official which can help to respond to unwanted chat with the power of GIFs. It’s available on the apple store and android! Take control of your flirting 👍🏻 #whyifumble #sexting #youngteens
(image: @veronicadearly) Don’t let anyone pressure you into sending explicit pictures. Please remember that if you are sending nudes under the age of 16 then it counts as child pornography and is illegal! If you feel pressured by anyone please speak to an adult you trust. There are also many ways to block numbers and block people on other social media sites if you feel uncomfortable. Sending nudes can be enjoyable, but make sure you are being safe. For more advice visit the childline website. #whyifumble #sexting #teens #technology #youngpeople #parenthood
(repost: @bloodygoodperiod image: @nataliebyrne) Periods are never fun 👎🏻but they are a part of growing up! When you have your first period always make sure to tell an adult so they can help get you the right sanitary products. I’m sure they will also recommend all of the above! #whyifumble #menstration #periods #selfcare #body #selflove
Happy #internationalwomensday to all the amazing women out there! 💪🏻 Repost: @toughcookiesed #whyifumble #feminism #equality
(image: @saraandreasson) How often do you check your boobs for breast cancer? It’s scary but it’s vital to make sure you know what to look out for. While lumps are the most common sign (they are often hard/immovable) there are a variety of other signs. Check out the worldwide breast cancer website for more details. #whyifumble #body #health #breastcancer
@liveutifree have created an online survey to discover more about UTI’s! https://liveutifree.com/quiz Urinary Tract Infections can affect different parts of your urinary tract and includes symptoms such as burning sensations when peeing, smelly/cloudy pee and peeing more than usual (Head to the NHS website for more details). If you think you are suffering then go see your GP or even your local sexual health clinic and they can give you antibiotics to help. #whyifumble #utis #health #body #healthyliving
(image: @flomeije) Don’t let gender roles determine who you are! Gender roles are what society deems ‘acceptable’ for a certain gender to do/say/act. But they can harmful- ‘boys don’t cry’, ‘girls wear pink’ these statements serve to enforce gender roles so break free from them! 💪🏻 #whyifumble #genderroles #equality #feminism
(image: @maiaboakye) Always communicate with your partner- even during sex! Use positive statements to reaffirm what you like and always say if you feel uncomfortable, experience pain or even want to stop all together. Sex is a shared experience and should be pleasurable for everyone involved 😍 #whyifumble #relationships #consent #communication #sex
(image: @sayitwithacondom) If you are having trouble finding the perfect fit there are lots of different condoms to try out! Extra lubricated, Extended Performance, Flavoured Condoms, Ribbed condoms, Ultra thin and Extra safe condoms 🍆 Never let a bad experience with a condom put you at risk! Always practice safe sex #whyifumble #condoms #safesex