5 things you can do instead of wasting money on products to ‘last longer’
Fumble has some handy tips to make your sexperiences better, not just to last longer
The ‘men’ section on sex/sex toy sites often look pretty weird, promoting products like virility cream, endurance delay, and stamina pills. While I’m not exactly sure what they actually do, the general theme is about artificially ‘enhancing’ your stamina during sex. Aka: to last longer.
The problem with this is that it treats sex purely as a performance, suggesting that a lack of stamina and endurance can cause you to ‘fail’ at sex. This isn’t true! So, rather than throwing cash at this outdated idea of sex failure, here are some handy tips about having better sex without the help of ‘mendurance’ pills. This guide is especially for people who have a penis, but has insights for everyone.
1. There’s nothing to be ashamed of
First and foremost, there’s a fear and stigma attached to premature ejaculation, or ‘coming too soon’. In reality, very few people expect you to maintain an erection for hours at a time. If you’re upfront with the people you’re having sex with about your concerns, it won’t be a surprise. They’ll likely appreciate your honesty, and it’ll probably lessen the pressure when you get down to the fumbling. Sex is supposed to be enjoyable and fun.
2. If it’s going to happen, it’s going to happen
Always bear in mind that your idea of ‘too soon’ is probably not the same as someone else’s. And if you do experience fast ejaculation, there’s not much you can do to stop it, even in pill form! Orgasms aren’t something you can always predict. But you can get creative with them. Which brings us to point 3…
3. More than just the in and out
I’m not going to list all the possible options for sexy time without the sex. In short though, there are endless ways to have sexual pleasure with your partner(s), that don’t involve the “put X in Y hole”. (Fore)play around with different things to find out what you and your partner(s) enjoy.
4. Communication is key
It’s cliché, and it’s also true. Talking to the people you have sexual relationships with about your concerns may put you at ease. It may even resolve them before they happen.
5. No matter what, it’s probably best not to buy magic penis cream
Just because something’s a top seller on a sex toy site, doesn’t always mean it’s the right thing for you. In general, penis enhancement products can be incredibly dangerous.
So to summarise: save your cash, experiment with different things that feel enjoyable, and don’t be afraid to talk about how you’re feeling.
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Last Reviewed 27 April 2023
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