There’s an infinite number of ways to describe your gender identity. We asked for some examples – here’s what you said
As a starting point for the “Am I Trans?” Translating Sex, Identity & Relationships content series, we surveyed over 300 trans+ and non-binary young people (aged 13-25) about their experiences accessing inclusive relationships and sex education online. Part of this survey asked respondents:
How do you describe your gender identity? What does being trans+ and non-binary mean to you?
We received so many wonderful and incredibly varied answers. We’d never be able to summarise all the different ways of describing gender identity because it’s so personal and unique to all of us. This piece shares just some of the responses we received, showing there’s no right or wrong way to describe your gender identity.
Self-love
Being trans means I can feel more like myself and truly love who I am. I have great support from my boyfriend since day one and he helps keep me safe as I am socially transitioning.
My gender feels like a cosy house, I just want to feel at home in my body and identity.
I am a transgender man. To me being trans means learning to grow and embrace myself and become the me I was always supposed to be. It also means being there for my community and being inclusive of all.
To me being trans is an act of radical resistance and I have chosen to love being trans, despite that, if I could, I wish I’d been born cis. Since I don’t have that option I think it’s so important to love myself for what I am.
I’m lucky in the lack of thinking needed. Once I accepted I’m a woman my gender felt quite binary and I’ve gotten immense joy from that.
It’s just a part of who I am. Being gendered as a woman, being called by my new name, and changing to be more feminine in appearance bring me comfort.
Community
I’m agender, so I don’t have any sense of gender and don’t identify with one. Being trans/non-binary gives me community and feeling I’m not alone.
I’m a trans man! While I feel like a man first and trans second, it’s an integral part of my identity and transgender history is deeply important to me.
Trangender woman – a woman no different from any other save the prefix. Similar to disabled woman, infertile woman, or lesbian woman.
Everyone is to be accepted as who they are and our community comes together to support each other who have those shared experiences.
Individuality and authenticity
Non-binary as in I am me, yes my genitals can be categorised into one of the two sex binaries, but that has absolutely nothing to do with who I am. I reject the idea of binary assumptions based on visual stereotypes. The world wouldn’t end if we stopped relying on such constructs.
I feel dysphoric a lot and I deal with transphobia a lot, but it’s still so much better being out and trying as much as I can to be me, so I would say being trans is just being the true me.
[Being non-binary] means I don’t need to answer to society’s view of who I should be or what I should be doing, I can just be unapologetically me however brings me joy and affirmation. It’s about unlearning what’s been forced upon you and listening to your intuition.
Being trans and non binary to me means discovering yourself, exploring a part of you that was always there that you couldn’t figure out and freely being the person you are.
Non-binary – I feel varying degrees of masculinity and femininity and this varies day by day! I don’t feel like a man or a woman at all and feel dysphoric when misgendered. I love being nonbinary !!
I identify as nonbinary but I’m really fluid. For me, being nonbinary means that I can and will be anything I want. It’s freedom, expression, mystery, excitement, community, love, etc. I love being trans.
To me non-binary means that I don’t feel male or female, I’m neither and yet a beautiful blend of both.
A journey
Being trans and non binary has a huge place in my life and it’s meant I’ve had to go through a lot, both positive and negative, but it’s something I would never trade for anything. It’s a part of me that I love and want to cherish.
Trans man. It means I’m a building under progress and I’m not quite done yet but I’m getting there.
I’m trans masc non binary, AFAB. I would describe my gender identity as being somewhere in a sphere rather than a line. It’s not something I would be able to place on a scale, or something I can really place.
Trans man. I am no less a man than my brother or father, I just had a different start in life than them.
Everyone has their own journey and their own way of expressing their gender. No one who is trans or non binary owes anyone any amount of gender expression.
Trans ftm. Being trans to me is being in a prison but as time goes by you can customise the prison until you are happy.
This article is part of our “Am I Trans?” Translating Sex, Identity & Relationships content series: supporting trans+ young people to access sex and relationships education that is relevant to their experiences and needs. Discover the full series here.
We use the term trans+ in our articles as an umbrella term intended to incorporate all transgender, non-binary, agender and genderfluid identities.
Some of the content addresses potentially triggering topics, such as transphobia and gender dysphoria. We’ve added specific content warnings to these pieces, but please take a moment to check in with yourself and how you’re feeling before diving into the series.
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